It is the same with toys. Middle man is 4 so he should be playing with cars, superheros and learning to write. But what does he actually want to do. Well aside from wanting to watch TV all day long he wants to pretend he is a baby sperm whale or other creature he has seen on the TV. He also wants to buy millions of soft toys. If he had his way his room would be filled with soft toys (it is pretty full as it is) but for a 4 year old that is quite cute isn't it? I doubt very much that by the time he is 14, his mates won't be able to hang out in his room because there are too many Ikea rats in there.
The realisation that I treat him as older than his years came when I took him and little man to Paultons Park this week. He wasn't at all bothered that he couldn't go on the rollercoasters because little man was with us, he just wanted to go on the really tame Peppa Rides and point out all the characters. It was lovely. Then best of all were the supermarket style rides that were dotted around the park. It made me realise that I sometimes push him to go on rides that I want to do, and he is just fine with the small rides. He isn't an adrenaline junkie, he is 4. I was worried that we couldn't stay long because we had to pick big man up from school. But again the boys are little, they can't cope with a full day out. They were both asleep in the car within minutes of leaving.
So from now on I am going to take his lead a bit more. See what he wants to do. OK he wont always be able to watch the TV, but I think there will be more playing at home rather than big days out. Are you guilty of thinking your little ones are bigger too?