My Love Hate Relationship with Facebook

Friday, 13 June 2014

My Love Hate Relationship with Facebook

I have a love hate relationship with Facebook. For a blogger that spends far to much of her time on the thing then you may think that is odd but I am sure I am not alone. I just need to get a few things off my chest. I will start with the things I hate first (when I say hate, it's more of a strong dislike. Hate is a very strong word.)

1. If you have spoken to someone once for a few minutes, you feel obliged to accept their friend request. They are not a friend, but hey it's the polite thing to do.

2. Facebook groups, OMG where do I start? I am a member of several blogging ones which are on the whole really helpful. Community ones can be great too, if people actually think before they post. FYI I do not want to see a picture of any type of rash that you or a member of your family have. See a doctor. If you want to know opening times of a shop or theme park, look at their website. If you want, send them a facebook message, you don't need to ask a few thousand local people. The Am I/Aren't I pregnant pictures of a stick that has been urinated on. There's 2 lines so yes! I honestly don't think I have ever seen one on such a post that isn't.

3. People that get offended if you haven't liked a certain photo.

4. Even worse is when people only put a photo up in order to get lots of likes and some kind of ego boost. You know the ones, they barely say a word on Facebook all year yet you'll see them in a bikini on a Caribbean holiday sipping a cocktail. If you are going to use Facebook you should either use it regularly or not at all.

5. Which brings me on to the people that you are friends with but think that they must not use it. They never put any photos on or update a status. They never comment or like any posts. Then you see them in person and they know all about what you have been up to. The silent stalkers. Again use it and share, or don't use it at all.

6. People that write the most pointless status updates ALL of the time. We have all been bored and written something just for the sake of it now and then, but when it is all the time, these people are just asking for you to hit that unfollow button. Endless countdowns to holidays."Only 321days until we go away!" References about the weather being too hot, too cold, too rainy. I am unsure what temperature they want to live at. Maybe they need some kind of thermostated tank? Then the really obvious question updates. It's the middle of the school holidays "Will Legoland be busy?" Then 2hrs later "OMG it is heaving in Legoland" then a few hours later "Stuck in traffic jam trying to leave Legoland" Arrrrggggghhhhhh what did you expect? Everywhere is busy in the school holidays. Twitter is the place you need to go. This is where people will happily tweet back to you - go there, embrace it, it is great. Please please just stop clogging up my newsfeed.

7. Which brings me onto another thing. How the hell does Facebook know what I do and don't want to read? Show me everything I have "liked" or everyone I have befriended and I will make the decision as to whether or not I want to see it or hide it.

So why then, if I dislike Facebook as much as I do, am I still on it?

1. By uploading selected photos, I  have them stored somewhere other than my computer (which could break/be stolen.) It also means my parents and sister get to see pictures of the boys regularly which I think they enjoy.

2. It is a way of keeping in touch with friends that I would have otherwise lost contact with. Lives follow different paths and you can't see all the people you want all the time. Facebook helps. I was able to message a friend from university on Friday evening to say I was thinking of her because a song was playing. That is kind of nice.

3.Sometimes, just sometimes, the "I'm having chicken kiev for tea - yummy!" post just gives you inspiration on what you should eat. But hey Instagram is a much better place for that kind of thing.

So these are my pet peeves, what are yours? I must have missed some and will be kicking myself when you tell me.

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  1. Absolutely! I hate Facebook and I'm now only on it as my "blog" my first falling out with Facebook was when my daughter was born - someone "leaked" the info on Facebook and I was getting congratulation messages before I'd even had the chance to tell both my sisters and my Nanna!

  2. I hate the way it doesn't always show recent posts, so you think you're looking at those but actually it's from 3 days ago but got 3 comments on it!
    And I also hate the recommended things that I should like. Plus people who I have no idea who they are friend requesting.

    Otherwise I do like it, but now I'm feeling a bit swamped as I spend a lot more time doing blogging group things reading those and acting on those than catching up with friends.

    I don't do much on my own profile anymore - as I use twitter more, so sorry to them for all my inane status updates!

  3. Louise Fairweather13 June 2014 at 16:23

    Yes - infact there are some people who I never seem to see. I am using my own profile less to. I figure if friends want to know what I am up to they can look at my page. Insane updates are fine on twitter

  4. Louise Fairweather13 June 2014 at 16:24

    Oh the same thing happened to a friend of mine when an over excited Auntie told the world.

  5. Denise Johnson13 June 2014 at 19:31

    Interesting post :-) I hate it when people post all the time that they are doing so many amazing things as I can't help but think that if they really were that busy doing so much they wouldn't have time to keep posting on fb! #pocolo

  6. Louise Fairweather13 June 2014 at 19:34

    Honestly you can tell how bored I am with how many pictures I post throughout the day. The more pictures tends to be the more bored. It's just something to keep me sane whilst looking after the boys

  7. I keep Facebook just for friends, I don't have a page for my blog. I'm also quite selective in accepting friend requests which can be a bit awkward when I work with them and don't accept their requests. #pocolo

  8. Sara (@mumturnedmom)13 June 2014 at 19:47

    I try to use it for my Page (not all that successfully), and occasionally post on my own profile... I do comment on friends posts, but I really don't use it all that much myself... I hate how my newsfeed is just full of what Facebook thinks I want to see rather than what I actually want to see! And, I agree with Emma about the recent posts things, so irritating :) #pocolo

  9. Louise Fairweather13 June 2014 at 20:10

    oooo you are brave. I always feel bad and accept. x

  10. Louise Fairweather13 June 2014 at 20:13

    Do you know what I have just realised I only liked you as A Strong Coffee rather than me - and my page doesn't show me your posts -have now rectified this problem x

  11. #pocolo

    Hahaha, number 4. I've just suffered weeks of Maldives honeymoon photos of a girl who has literally never posted anything since 2008...

  12. Merlinda Little14 June 2014 at 07:46

    Sometimes I feel so bad about myself cuz all I am seeing in FB are good photos of them on makeup and nice clothes and bags and jewelries! Why do people show the jewelry and bags and cellphones and new cams that they just bought in there! To show off to people who cant afford them (me)! Oh well its prolly me just being bitter for being poor =P #pocolo

  13. Your hate list are all the reasons I dislike it too. For me it's the same people posting the same oldcrap all the time. I get annoyed at silent stalkers too, it's the main reason I'm hardly ever on it now. Great post :-)

  14. rebecca beesley14 June 2014 at 22:27

    I'm hardly on facebook these days because i got a bit fed up with it too. It also took up so much time to keep 'properly' up to date with it and i'm an all or nothing person so found it hard just to do a bit of facebook. x

  15. Yes! The way Facebook recommends people 'I may know'... I never ever do!

  16. Victoria Welton19 June 2014 at 15:23

    I am SO with you on all of this!! Thanks for linking to PoCoLo :) x