A Strong Coffee: The Naughty Spot

Tuesday, 14 January 2014

The Naughty Spot


Since turning 2, little man has discovered the naughty spot. I say spot, it is usually the bottom stair. Once a cute lovable smiley boy, he is now the devil in disguise pushing every boundary to the limit. Last week he spent the majority of one meal time sitting on the naughty spot. I don't even remember why I put him on there. I think he spat his drink. I know he refused to apologise as his word of the week was "No."

Once on the step he decided he was going to test me to my limits.

First up he decides to walk off the naughty spot in Daddy's large shoes, hoping that I wouldn't notice he had moved or will find it so incredibly funny that he will get let off. I noticed and I didn't laugh at him. Two minutes later I go and ask him to apologise.

He beeped my nose.

A minute later and he see's if I find him walking in big man's croc's any funnier.

I don't.

Two mins later and I return to find he has emptied the stair basket on the floor and is wearing a sun hat. I was not happy. I was torn between making him tidy the mess and doing his time on the spot. I decided that I would clear the bits up whilst he waited. I bent over putting the objects back into the basket. The problem? Little man noticed I had a builders situation going on and stuck his hand down there.

I screamed. I laughed. He won.

Mummy 0 Little man 1.

It turns out it is not just me that loses against little man though. Daddy put him on the naughty spot at the weekend for being mean to middle man. His way of avoiding his 2 minutes and apology this time? He fell asleep!

I would love to say that this is the last you will hear of little man's behaviour but fear with the terrible two's in full swing it could be a long year! This week's word seem's to be "mine" so I think more trips to the stairs may be on the cards.



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17 comments:

justanormalmummy said...

We are at the same stage... the tantrums, the wilfulness... is there a switch they flip when they tunr 2?! Jeeez... It is TESTING. lol x #funee

kidGLloves said...

GENIUS!!!!!! I think he needs to join up with Lucas. Together this would equal world domination!!!! Popping over from KidGLloves & Wicked World of Lucas #funee

Maddy said...

He sounds like he's got a great, cheeky personality! Two is such a difficult age but it's easier third time round, right? *she asks desperately as a fellow mum of three boys whose youngest is still a baby*!

Louise Fairweather said...

My no.1 thing to do this weekend is to get my his-band to unblock your blog for me. For some reason our internet is stopping me looking at your site. Will sort out asap x

Louise Fairweather said...

:-) They each have their own challenges, I think is the best way to put it lol xx

Louise Fairweather said...

If you find it, let me know so I can flip it back again

rebecca beesley said...

oh the naughty step! We are going to have to be going through all that again with Miss T soon! (still have to do it with my 9 year old and believe me there is a whole lot more mischief they can get up to in 9 minutes compared to 2 mins!). how sweet that he fell asleep though. (we used to find J would run and use the potty during his time out so we were torn between praising him for that and telling him off for the naughty stuff). xxx

Jallie Daddy said...

Ah, the joys of the naughty step! We got to the point where Ellie would put herself there after she'd been naughty, or put her doll there. Your little boy is creative at least! Funny :)

Helen Actually Mummy said...

Oh goodness I remember this well. Maddy is totally right - the pain you go through now will be worth it when you see what a strong, interesting young man he will become. GG did all that and more (sorry, you're in for a ride) but I stayed strong in principles and she is now funny, smart, witty, and a pleasure to be with. Most of the time. Until she's a teenager...

Vaidehi C said...

All my sympathies! J is 2.5 and the terrible twos are in full flow!

Alice Elliott said...

The fact that he fell asleep on the naughty step signifies that he was being bad because he was tired. Does he still have a daytime nap? Believe it or not, children who nap during the day sleep better at night (mine certainly did).

If the naughty step is to work, you need to adopt a stern face that fits the punishment. If he gets off, firmly install him back on it. Wait within eyeshot to move in quickly if he decides to get off, make him realise you mean business. Give him a prescribed time limit (say 2 minutes) and stick to it, his bum needs to be on the step continuously during that time. You shouldn't have tidied away the contents of the basket while he was doing his 'time', but afterwards to avoid that situation. At the moment he thinks it's a game, you've got to make him realise it isn't.


Even though he's only 2 you could try explaining why you're putting him on the naughty step. If you do managed to get through to him, it will speed up the process of dishing out the required punishment in the future. Children are often naughty because they don't realise why they are being so and they don't understand the correct format they should be following. This is a learning curve for good behaviour as well as a form of punishment and setting firm your boundaries, not his.

JessMcGlynn said...

Oh I know this battle well!! At the moment Eli is doing exactly the same thing and it takes a real strength of will to stick with it until he says sorry as he is so stubborn. I hope that it's just a short phase and will be over quickly!!

Louise Fairweather said...

Yes trying to get him to nap is challenging - not helped at all by pre school and school pick ups of his brothers.

Louise Fairweather said...

It is a battle of strength isn't it! seems like ones just out the other end and the next one has gone into it!

Louise Fairweather said...

We have had that too! Sometimes when he hasn't even been that naughty!

Louise Fairweather said...

uurrggghhh teenagers. Hoping having boys that will give me a marginally easier ride....maybe?

Alice Elliott said...

I can see how the disruption could cause problems. It is a matter of strict timing. Even half an hour's nap is better than nothing and if there is an enforced routine he will expect to go to sleep at a prescribed time and be woken up ready for the school run. Difficult now he's 2, but still worth pursuing, not only for him but for you too! Be strong, persistent and purposeful, don't let 'love' get in the way, and you will succeed.